My Two Cents: Body Positivity vs. Influencer Weight Loss?

Back in December, I spent some of my holiday break  going through my Facebook blog page DMs from readers (yes, I actually make time to read and answer those) and this was one of the ones I had received:

I’m not going to lie, the question took me off guard to the point that I failed to formulate an immediate answer. So I simply wrote back that I needed some time to process this a bit, promising that I would cover this topic on the blog as soon as I could.

Weight loss is such a touchy subject. Understandably so as it triggers a lot of difficult memories and emotions for many of us, especially if you are a woman. As someone who grew up being constantly criticized, bullied and even publicly humiliated for my weight, I still cringe a bit when Weight Watchers is brought up in conversation. (For context I was gifted a membership to that program by my Great Aunt when I was 9 years old and subsequently continued to do so until the day I turned 18, but that’s a story for another time.)

I came into plus size fatshion through the body positive movement and I know that for some people its the opposite. This was back in 2009, before it all went mainstream and body positivity, as it applied to plus size bodies specifically, was more along the lines of size acceptance. I was 19 and had a history of leaving the mall in tears for not being able to find anything that I liked that fit and was actually affordable.  I told myself that I hated fashion but the truth was that I hated the fact that the fashion industry just wouldn’t work with my body.  I believed that in order to have things like respect, love and nice clothes, akin to that of my thinner peers, I would have to lose as much weight as possible first.

Me at 19 vs. Now

That’s when I stumbled onto The Big Girl Blog by Cece Olisa. It was purely by accident, as I had been online shopping for plus size club clothes since I had been invited to a party that called for that kind of thing. I kept reading post after post and ended up finding other similar blogs that covered topics such as dating, fashion and, of course, body love and body positivity. Motivated by what I read,  I started to unlearn the negative “lessons” that had been instilled in me and learned to love and celebrate the body I have. Continue reading

theCURVYcon 2018 Swagbags: Glitter vs. Platinum

Does this year’s CURVYcon Glitter (formerly Teal) swagbag deserve all the hate it got on social? After following the heated discussion on Facebook, I simply had to find out for myself. Thanks to a friend of mine I got the chance to compare the two swagbags from this year and record my findings. Check out the video below and let me know your thoughts!

Disclaimer: This video was recorded on Thursday, September 20th but I didn’t get a chance to edit it until this weekend due to a hectic work schedule.


You can check out my CURVYcon 2017 Platinum Swagbag Haul here and my CURVYcon 2016 Teal Swagbag Haul here.

Inside the Fitting Room: Target’s New Line – Wild Fable

I was getting ready to leave the office to head straight home for the weekend when I spotted an ad for the new line on Instagram. I scrolled through a couple items on my phone and ultimately decided to stop by Target by my apartment before heading home. What makes this line very special is that for the very first time Target decided to make every piece available in plus sizes. This is major as this is coming from a brand that at one point had no plus sizes available in store or online for a solid  2 years back in 2010. I greatly appreciate the fact that everything in this new size inclusive fashion line (sizes range from 0 to 26W) is quite affordable with everything from clothes and accessories being just under $40.

Took 10 items with me to the fitting room, only 5 were winners this time around.

While the plus size items are  hung in the space as the straight sizes, I should note one sad reality – a great number of these aren’t available in store so once again we are forced to do most of our shopping online. In following the line’s launch on social media, I noticed that some stores have more items available in plus than others so if you are dead set on trying things on before buying (like I am) get ready to travel to multiple Target locations. That said, I did try on some items from the straight size section that had some stretch and found that they fit just fine. Continue reading

theCURVYcon 2017 Platnium Swagbag Haul!

Once I knew that I had a Platinum CURVYcon ticket, I was super excited to see what would be included in the swag bag of this level if only to compare it to teal one I got last year. I will be recapping the whole experience of this year’s con in another post but I will say that the Platinum experience brings a lot of perks with the brunch and party, both of which included small swag bags for the attendees which was pretty cool so I had to include some of those items in this haul. If you attended the con this year let me know what your favorite part was and what you think about this bag compared to the teal one I got last year.

Disclaimer: This video was recorded the weekend of 9/16 – 9/17 but I didn’t get a chance to edit it until this week after recovering from the flu.

Style notes: In this video I am wearing Short Sleeve V Neck “Weekend Mood On” Graphic T-Shirt in a 2X. It is actually very roomy and came with some grey shorts so I’ve been using it as loungewear/pajamas..

The Difference Between Surrender and Acceptance

One of the biggest pushes against body positive movement is this idea that those involved with it are promoting/glorify obesity. For some screwed up reason “making an effort” equals thin while being larger is equated to “letting yourself go” or simply “giving up.” Those of us in this body positive/love community, know this is not the case but for those on the outside looking in, this is their only way to understand what is going on.

At the third annual Golden Confidence Pool Party last month.

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