5 Ways to Add Self Care to Your Daily Life

With everything that has happened over the last year it has been difficult to not sink deep into my usual stress response of survival, and coping mechanisms.  I am so guilty of not taking care of myself when things were “normal” and this has only gotten worst between dealing with the possibly of being laid off (again), financial insecurity and the logistics of having to move during a pandemic to name a few. I know that I’m not alone with this, nevertheless I’ve been actively trying to find some sense of peace in chaos.

And yes, things may seem a bit quiet and boring being under quarantine for so long, yet that too can be a form of chaos for some of us. (Yes, even for introverts.) Today I’m sharing five ways I’ve been incorporating more self care into my routine. While some of these may seem obvious, some are still hard even for me, but I’m trying and I hope you’ll join me.

1.) Get cozy and cute (but only if YOU want to)

I’ve taken to treating myself to some new sleep and lounger wear to bring in some changes to my overall dull WFH wardrobe. Most recently I got this black sleep shirt from the Modcloth-exclusive collaboration with Hello Kitty. It has a classic pajama silhouette with lapel collar, cuffed long sleeves and curved shirttail hem, red heart-shaped buttons down the entire front, piping throughout and an embroidered patch of this Sanrio icon on the chest pocket.  It is adorable and soft though also chic enough that I deemed it worthy of including a few accessories and makeup despite the fact that I’m just staying home because, why not?

I’ll admit that like most people that have been working from home,  I really haven’t been dressing up much, though I try to make an effort at least on those days I have a scheduled  Zoom call.  Somedays I’ll do this and other times I simply don’t care enough to try. Both are fine. The important thing is to do what is comfortable for you.

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Su-Style Expo 2019 Recap

First I just want to apologize for taking so long to post again. I’ve been in the midst of some personal hardships that I’m actually still working through, but I  am determined to finish what I started. So I’m back and actively working on some new projects that I’m very excited to share so stay tuned for that.

Currently I’m also in the process of outfit planning for theCURVYcon next month and it reminded me that I hadn’t had the chance to share about my experience at the last great fashion event I had the pleasure to attend. As I recounted in my post back in June, as a birthday present to myself, I traveled down to Puerto Rico for the Su-Style Expo. Created by blogger, Suzanne Ujaque, the Su-Style Expo is the premier Latino plus size fashion event in Puerto Rico.Suzanne was the first international fashion blogger I started to follow soon after I launched this blog. I found her to be of interest because of how differently trends can be interpreted due to location and local beauty standards. Beauty stereotypes abound in Latino media in unique ways  which in turn are reinforced by media found in the States. From never showing Afro-Latinos, like me, at all to depicting Indigenous Latinos only as service workers, all the while promoting one specific body type at all times. While there are a few of us Latino/a influencers in this space doing what we can to break these (harmful) beauty standards,  Suzanne was the first (that I know of) that took it a step further by creating an event to help push her message of self and body love with a very unique approach. Continue reading

My Two Cents: Modesty is NOT “Anti-Body Positive”

Webster’s dictionary defines modesty as, “the quality of behaving and especially dressing in ways that do not attract sexual attention; propriety in dress, speech or conduct.” Even with this definition “modesty” brings to mind images of plainness, frumpy clothes and overly-religious reserve; all things that the body positive movement is against. For the most part being body positive has meant wearing revealing clothes such as body-con dresses and crop tops, understandably so as plus size women are reclaiming visibility after decades of being taught self-loathing to the point of hiding their body. However, this in turn has made the movement somewhat exclusive as those who chose not to empower themselves in such a way are put down as needing more self esteem and confidence.Modesty is not Anti-Body PositiveMay exclaim: “Show those arms! Your figure! Them legs!” Continue reading

A Touch of Pink V-day Glam

As promised here are two more Valentine’s looks. Both looks feature this fuchsia pleated high-low taffeta skirt from Rainbow. Admittedly, Rainbow is a hit or miss as the quality is not consistent and leaves much to be desired, yet last week I was pleasantly surprised to find this well-made piece of formal wear for only $10!  The bold color alone makes a powerful statement, great for that special evening out, be it with your significant other or friends. It is just so elegant and chic that you can’t help but twirl around once you put it on. Take a look.

Disclaimer: This is not a sponsored post. 

Look #1: Girly Edge

Turtle necks and Valentine’s day date to some may seem to be a major contradiction, yet it is truly an effortless way to elevate casual style. This combination of the monochrome jersey fabric stripped turtle neck and fuchsia is a subtle move away from the “traditional” V-day fashion as the colors lean more towards the everyday.  I should note that the turtle neck is very lightweight so it really won’t be much help in keeping you warm though it does give a very stylish silhouette. I kept accessories to a minimum with a vintage gold-tone chain shoulder strap clutch and bow front skinny belt. I can totally see myself wearing this outfit to a dinner out with the girls on Galentine’s Day.

Style notes: Bold color and stripes in the same outfit? I must say breaking two plus size fashion rules at the same time is very gratifying.

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