Dressed to Chill

When it comes to spending the holidays at home, with just my immediate family, I tend to go for something simple. Not because the occasion isn’t special, but since most of my relatives actually live in Panama we really don’t go all out like most other (Latinx) families do. We keep things pretty low key, unless we invite some friends over, and this year was no different.

Just sitting around reading a book and drinking tea until it was time to cook.

This is why I went with complete comfort over style with this year’s Thanksgiving outfit – just a cute knit sweater and leggings.  I am currently obsessed with this plum/grape shade of purple and Torrid seems to be the one place that actually has anything in this color in my size so this drop shoulder cable knit tunic-length sweater was at the top of my “must buy” list as soon as I saw it online. Other than the color,  I really love the strappy lace up front detail that brings some sass to what would otherwise be considered a fumpy top. Unfortunately this sweater is sold out in this color but the style is still available in black in limited sizes.

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Eliminating my credit card debt!

It took 6 long years but, I am totally credit card debt free!I started this journey in late 2014 after grad school.  Back then, I found myself with a little over than $5k in credit card debt, no job (or savings) and in need of a new apartment – not the best place to be in. Needless to say I’m living proof that you can battle credit card debt while also being broke. I will admit that things did get harder once I was laid off in 2015 from one job and then being furloughed in April from another. However, I still managed to reach my goal. Of course, everyone’s financial situation is different, but, I want to share what helped me get to this point as I know it could prove to be helpful for people dealing with the same issue during this pandemic. Continue reading

Boho Summer Dress Fun

I’ll be honest, once this lockdown period started I immediately stopped shopping for anything non-essential. Part of this was due to the uncertain financial situation but it also was because I wasn’t sure when I would be going out again. I went into my apartment in mid-March, during which I was still wearing turtle necks under my coat, and by the time I stated to go outside I had missed spring entirely. Not that I’m complaining too much about that because I actually got to have one spring without having to suffer through terrible allergy attacks.Anyways, being home has given me a chance to purge my closet (again) and style some old summer pieces in new ways as well as find any “style gapes” I may have. When it comes to summer fashion my closet is seriously lacking because I’m not a fan of this season (the humidity is no joke in NYC), so I don’t  give summer fashion much thought beyond bathing suits which says a lot about my priorities, hahaha.  Continue reading

Mental Health in the Time of COVID-19

As someone who has dealt with homeless twice before already, the very thought of unemployment has always been a major anxiety trigger for me. So I’ve become the kind of person that needs to have some sense of financial stability and control in order to hold my fears and anxiety in check. Financially, I am in a better place than how things were with my family back when I was a kid, however, like most people I know living in NYC, I still live paycheck to paycheck, which isn’t the most stress-reducing situation. Just missing one paycheck results in a financial setback that will take months to recover from.

So when I got the news in April that I was furloughed, I broke down and had one of the worst panic attacks ever. My mother, who is getting through lockdown along with me, didn’t know how to help but she tried her best to calm me down, embracing me until I stopped crying, shaking and hyperventilating. (My mother has never experienced me having a panic or anxiety attack firsthand and I know this scared her but I appreciate that this is how she chose to handle the situation in that moment because I managed to recover much faster than I would have otherwise.) I was unconsolable for days. I was angry at all those “we’re in this together” messages circulating everywhere. Yes, we’re facing the same storm that is COVID-19, BUT we’re all experiencing different journeys because we’re on different ships. Some of us aren’t even on ships at all, just doing the best with our inflatable life raft, if that.

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About Moths and Roses (Let’s Talk About Age and Style)

I’m 29, turning 30 in May. Honestly, I’ve only just gotten used to being “so young with so much responsibility” and the idea that I am getting to the age in which most people have themselves more established is horrifying considering the fact that I’m still so far away from where I expected to be at this point. Added to that, I can’t help but notice that my style doesn’t exactly read as “responsible adult” or “age appropriate” at all times.  I mean, what is a 30 year old even supposed to look like?

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