Mental Health in the Time of COVID-19

As someone who has dealt with homeless twice before already, the very thought of unemployment has always been a major anxiety trigger for me. So I’ve become the kind of person that needs to have some sense of financial stability and control in order to hold my fears and anxiety in check. Financially, I am in a better place than how things were with my family back when I was a kid, however, like most people I know living in NYC, I still live paycheck to paycheck, which isn’t the most stress-reducing situation. Just missing one paycheck results in a financial setback that will take months to recover from.

So when I got the news in April that I was furloughed, I broke down and had one of the worst panic attacks ever. My mother, who is getting through lockdown along with me, didn’t know how to help but she tried her best to calm me down, embracing me until I stopped crying, shaking and hyperventilating. (My mother has never experienced me having a panic or anxiety attack firsthand and I know this scared her but I appreciate that this is how she chose to handle the situation in that moment because I managed to recover much faster than I would have otherwise.) I was unconsolable for days. I was angry at all those “we’re in this together” messages circulating everywhere. Yes, we’re facing the same storm that is COVID-19, BUT we’re all experiencing different journeys because we’re on different ships. Some of us aren’t even on ships at all, just doing the best with our inflatable life raft, if that.

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About Moths and Roses (Let’s Talk About Age and Style)

I’m 29, turning 30 in May. Honestly, I’ve only just gotten used to being “so young with so much responsibility” and the idea that I am getting to the age in which most people have themselves more established is horrifying considering the fact that I’m still so far away from where I expected to be at this point. Added to that, I can’t help but notice that my style doesn’t exactly read as “responsible adult” or “age appropriate” at all times.  I mean, what is a 30 year old even supposed to look like?

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The Roaring ’20s (and 30s)

Like most people (I like to think that I’m not the only one that does this) I make grandiose goals for myself. Its not even something I do at the start of a new year as a resolution, but just in general as a way to motivate me. So I struggle whenever I don’t meet the expectations I set for myself.  It is very unlikely that I will stop this habit any time soon, yet even with the challenges thrown my way and my disappointments (of which there were MANY in 2019), I took the time to celebrate the small victories I had in the decade that was my twenties.

Given my history with anxiety, depression and suicidal idealization (all of which are topics that I hope to cover on here soon), I never expected to even make it to my current age, let alone enter another decade of life. And that’s what makes 2020 and turning thirty so frightening to me.

Even so, I have a whole new set of goals in mind for this year and the rest of this new decade. I figure sharing some of them will help keep me honest and maybe motivate anyone that may be starting the year off on a bit of a low point to look at what comes next as chance for self-growth and greater adventures. Continue reading

It’s Sweater(Dress)Weather!

The  temperature in NYC has finally begun to drop and I’m super excited because this means I finally get a chance to wear some of my favorite (cozy)pieces from my closet – my sweater dresses!  A sweater dress is an essential fall/winter season piece to have as it is the easiest way be chic and warm. I recently purchased this striped sweater dress over the summer at Charming Charlie during their closing out sale for only $12 (It was originally $42, always shop out of season for great deals!) and I have been looking forward to wearing it ever since. Because of the print and the bow details on the bell sleeves, I just added a simple scarf that matched the pink stripe, ankle booties and a jewel-toned lip color.

And just in case you’re in the market for a new sweater dress this season,  be sure to check out my list of favorites below. Everything on the list is less than $40 (not including shipping. Be sure to jump on these soon as a few are even marked lower due to it being Cyber Monday today.   Happy shopping!

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Back To School Werk

The first day of class has always been a bit of a runway show for me. It all started when I went to Pre-K in an outfit my mother  styled for me. I grew up in a household where most of my clothes were  carefully curated by my mother to ensure that I looked my best even though we were of the working class. She would always point out that being on a budget should never take away your style.

Super casual and cute for my very first day of school. I seriously want this skirt back though.

So it should come as no surprise that, much like how I go about choosing  my annual planner, I became selective of my outfit for my first day of class to the point that I splurged from time to time. It does set the tone for the school year after all.  While I actually don’t have pictures of every look I have fond memories of reach of those 20 outfits (Pre-K to Grad school) and I remember the thought that went behind each of them. This hasn’t changed even as I made the transition from student to part time professor. For this back to school season, I’ve partnered with Lane Bryant to show my style for my first full week back to class. I have styled two looks, both are classroom appropriate but very different.

Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post; clothes were provided by Lane Bryant  for feature, but all opinions are my own.

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