2017 was a very interesting year. It marked the year that I turned 27 – the same age my mother was when she made the decision to drop out of college in Puerto Rice to build a life here in NYC. This is also the age she took steps towards creating a family as she also met and later married my father. All of the above are major life events that I can’t even come close to relating to being single and still living in the same city I was born and raised in.
I don’t know if I’m the only one that does this but I think its only natural to look at the path my mother took in order to gain some sense as to where I should “be” at my age. Which is why reaching 27 meant that I should have parts of my life “together” as an adult and yet I found myself feeling like I hadn’t made any real moves.To be clear, I have made a point to try to get over such negative thoughts attached to my birthday in the past, however, with 30 now just two years in the horizon, those anxieties have made a shift return. Thankfully, my mother doesn’t make a big deal about my being single and such, even though she is well aware that I often compare myself to her. I think having that extra level of concern would greatly affect my self esteem. Yet that also got me thinking as to why I have always forced myself to consider the need to have a set number of milestones met by a specific age only to realize that this had more to do with antiquated gender-specific societal norms that had nothing to do with me, which is honestly pretty ridiculous.
That’s why this is the birthday year that I scrap all of that. I’m trying things that scare/intimidate me, like wearing eye-catching bold colors and different silhouettes, but more importantly, actually celebrating myself on my birthday and not just viewing it as a deadline.
~Get the look~
Meri Skye Coral Selma Short Sleeve Smocked Ruffle Dress | Dia&Co (similar here)
Taupe Trinity Ruched Buckle Bootie | Avenue (similar here)
SONOMA Goods For Life Braided Riveted Belt (2X) | Kohl’s
Candela Cremosa Matte Lipstick | Vive Cosmetics
Style note: I actually received this dress in a 4X by accident but it was sold out in a 1X so I couldn’t exchange it. I loved the color and material so much I kept it. My plan is to get it tailored to fit better than when I wore it with a belt. Size is totally just a number on a tag but you would be surprised to see what you can do so much with what is available to you.
Have you ever viewed your birthday to be more of a deadline rather than a day to celebrate?